Some Questions for You
If you think that somebody you love has a problem with alcohol or drugs - you may like to answer the following questions.   Is someone you love consuming excessive amounts of alcohol or drugs ? Does this person tend to hide his/her drinking or drug use ?
Does he/she make a point of going to places where other people will be consuming alcohol or drugs ? Is There an obvious mood change or an apparent personality change when the person uses alcohol or drugs ? Is there repeated intoxication ? Has the person lost interest in other activitiesas their drinking / drug use has increased ? When not drinking and using does he or she appear to be uneasy, restless or agitated ? Does he / she break promises to cut down or stop ? Does he / she drink or use drugs alone ? Has he /she stolen money or goods in order to buy alcohol or drugs ? Does he / she tell lies, especially about his / her use of alcohol and drugs ? Does the person become hostile if confronted or criticised about his / her consumption ? If you love someone who is harmfully involved with alcohol or drugs, have you at times felt ;
Guilty ? Frustrated ? Angry ? Rejected ? Ignored ?		Resentful ? Confused ? Frightened ? Worried ? Discounted ?
In response to the situation have you ;
Adjusted ? Pleaded ? Forgiven ? Promised ? Blamed yourself ? Ignored ? Covered up ? Threatened ?		Cajoaled ? Begged ? Apologised ? Re-adjusted ? Blamed others ? Pretended ? Lied ? Prayed ?
Or made a host of other response normal for a loved one of a chemically dependent person ?
If this all sounds familiar then the chances are you are involved with someone dependent on alcohol or other drugs. There is no point in trying to understand this rationally, because you are dealing with an irrational dependence and relationship. Commit yourself to seeking help so you can assist in the disruption of the harmful drug relationship and be a party to healing rather than enabling it to continue.
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